The Most Memorable and the Happiest Day In My Life

The most memorable and happiest day in my life answered the question I posed in the previous blog.

This happened on the day of my sister's marriage. I mean my friend who I consider my sister. This may seem strange to some. But thats the way it is. She is my sister.

Some background info before I start. She is the one who loved me as much as my mother possibly could have. The four plus years I have spent with her will remain the best I have had. Her father was a little weak in heart. He has high blood pressure and is a diabetic. Naturally he was excited a lot by his only daughter's marriage. But a little too excited it turned out to be.

The bride was in Chennai, the bridegroom in Mumbai and the bride's brother in Malaysia. So the huge burden of organizing the marriage(you know how Indian marriages are!!!) fell on both parents. And both proved equal to the task running hither and tither , doing everything needed. All set for marriage. But Providence had other ideas. He had a mild heart attack on the Tuesday before Saturday's marriage. And was admitted to the ICU in a reputed heart specialty hospital .This was not informed to the Bride or the Groom's family. But still he could not keep himself out of the preparations and excitement. AGAINST DOCTOR'S ADVICE he wanted to get discharged from the hospital and he forced his family to do so.

But the family members were wise enough not to allow him work anymore. On Thursday , after his daughter came ,a little too excited again, he had another attack,this time a bit stronger. The celebration mood came to a standstill. Its a matter of life and death. Doctors naturally were angry with him and the family. He was ordered not to think even of moving out of the ICU for a week . His ECG showed his life was at stake and he had to undergo a Bypass surgery as soon as possible. He should forget attending his own daughter's marriage. You have to see him and hear him speak how much he likes her. MISSING OWN DAUGHTER'S MARRIAGE?. Can you just imagine missing your daughter's marriage?

Prayers started to flow. His wife was with him in hospital throughout. He missed the Engagement Function held on Friday. The groom's family provided valuable support once they were informed. He was asked not to get tense. Doesn't it seem absurd? Your only daughter is going to be married. And you wont be attending it. And you should not get tense. nervous , excited or emotional.

Discussions were held with the doctors who strongly advised against getting out of bed for 5 minutes even. What was everyone supposed to do?

He missed Engagement on Friday. Friday's report of his health was not encouraging. All lost hope of him attending the marriage. All looked up at the supposed Supreme Power and exclaimed "What the hell are you doing about the miseries happening here? " and then " Do you really exist?"

I was there for marriage on Friday to help what I could. There was no excitement at all. No celebration mood. So after doing some petty work I was late to the Church. The bride and the groom had walked to the dias. I had some space to stand only at the last. One of my friends( I have a crush on her!!) who was standing at the front, called me.

What I saw will remain etched in my memory for eons to come. There he was sitting upright, with a serene face. His wife and brother were near beside him. That image flooded my eyes with tears. Even this moment when I am trying to put these thoughts into words( miserably so) , I am getting emotional. That is THE most memorable moment in my life.

That moment made me look up into the sky and exclaim " Oh My GOD, You have done it. Thanks "

Whatever be the medical explanation that the doctors may give, I don't care. Its some Super power that made this happen. That Super power may be his Wife who stood with him throughout, may be the doctors who are going to cure him or the prayers and hopes of the well wishers. Anyways I consider it a miracle.

And seeing my sister hand in hand with her soul mate made it the happiest day in my life.

And today his Bypass surgery is over and he is doing fine.

In a lighter vein, here is my epilogue.

My roommates, Gaje, Mani, Viji and Vinoth( I wont tell his nickname) want me to add their names in my post just like authors dedicate their books to someone special to them.

So here it is. Thanks guys and I dedicate this post to you all.

What is God?

One of the most mysterious issues modern mankind(probably our forefathers too) loves to debate and fight over is GOD.

So, now , I too am plunging into this dirty, already overcrowded pond.

Now that this argument can become too aggressive for some, here is my disclaimer.

All the issues dealt with in this post and my blog are my views. If it offends someone, I am not to be blamed.

Let me start.

There are three kinds of people in this world. Those who devoutly beleive in God, those who deny its existence and the rest. I wont call the 'rest' as agnostic for the reason , the rest include the whole lot of people whose minds waver with respect to their views of God.

All these 3 kinds of people dont have answers when probed too much on their stance.

The pious keep giving explanations like "He is formless, colorless, cant be comprehended by lowly souls like humans , blah blah blah..". But when rationality is brought in and we explain how acts once attributed to God are now being explained by Science and ask them to be more precise (2+2 = 4 anytime everywhere) and question them further they ought to get stumped though the fanatically devout wont accept it. That they will introspect later is altogether a different matter. These people killed Galileo and created many heretics out of scientists, refused to accept scientific explanations for hitherto inexplicable behaviours and attributed diseases to act of Devil.

The non-beleivers (the so-called rationalists) pride themselves in the fact that they dont beleive in God. They say explanations are available in Science for everything and will be available for the unexplained. But when asked some serious questions like "what happened before the Big Bang?" their stand wavers. And when things get too emotional like death of one's parents , the heavenly ( I have to use this word though these people do not believe in a heaven or hell) bliss we feel when we are treated to nature's best features, the coincidences we find in nature that Science cannot explain or when you sincerely hope(the beleivers call this prayer) things will work out right after an interview which decides your life they start thinking about an unknown power that may influence the world.

The other group includes all the others. They need not be probed too much to disturb their stance. They readily accept or reject His presence.

Where do I stand? Undoubtedly in the third set.

Let me try to put my thoughts in writing. It will look extremely fuzzy that you will stop midway and think "What the hell does he want?"

In the earliest of times deers knew by instinct and experience that chatting with a tiger is certain death and chatting with the opposite sex means an offspring. Similar thoughts like these developed over time and reached greater heights with the chimpanzees who scientists attest are brilliant relative to other animals. Many of these knowledge transferred through several species and generations and reached mankind, when he finally evolved. People belonging to this school of thought debate if Devil came first or God came first. My opinion is that both compliment each other. As earliest man attributed his diseases to a Devil, he definitely would have thanked his God for the good things happening to him. And fearing his God many desert him he started offering sacrifices to God as we did see in "Apocalypto". This God does more harm than good to this world.

Lets look at it another way. There is archeological evidence of David ruling Jerusalem, of the Trojan War and of the Kurukshetra War. These stories actually form the foundation of religion and God. Homer sang Iliad and Odyssey to the descendants of the victors from the Trojan War. In order to get praised and rewarded, he slowly exaggerated their heroics . Over centuries these exaggerations multiplied exponentially resulting to the present form.

Similarly the Ramayana and Mahabaratha were exaggerated over centuries to its current form.

Later came Buddha, Mahavira , Jesus and the Prophet. I view them as extremely ideal people who preached people. They did something unheard of those days in real life. Soon they became Sons of the Supreme Power. But for the advent of Science and mankind's increased rationality, Gandhi and Vivekanandha would also be considered so. As a famous author once said, "Had Gandhi been born 3000 years ago, his birth would have been in myths, his youth in miracles and he would have been worshipped as God".This kind of god would do more good than harm to this world.

What will happen if one says "All the best" to you before you appear for an importan exam? In absolute terms, nothing. I equate this with prayers. Nothing happens but that feel good factor will do a lot of good. doesnt it? The concept of God helps here.

A feeling that God looks after us and will punish us in case we do harm is absolutely necessary in today's world.

And there is this symbolism part. Most beliefs inherent in any religion symbolizes something. As an example we can cite Muslims wearing Purdah. This started because they had to save their skin from scorching sun in the Middle East where it all started.

In my view, at some point of time in everyone's life looks up ( God supposedly resides there) and says " Who are you? What the hell are you doing about the miseries happening here? " and finally " Do you really exist?"

I got a answer to these last week. That comes next